Kyra architects + leads the Launch PM Program and trains all new PMs. She’s been with Marriage Pact since the summer of 2021.

Can you describe what the Marriage Pact is like when it's on campus?

There's just a buzz in the air. Everyone's talking about it and excited about it. People are always asking me about it! People are asking each other about the answers they put for certain questions and asking about their past matches. It's just something that sort of takes over.

Why Marriage Pact, for you?

First of all, the coolest people ever work at Marriage Pact. Every single person who I've met is just so interesting and smart, funny and kind. It's just such a great community. Everyone's always willing to help each other. I think that's something that I learned after joining—but what initially drew me to it was that it's a really unique combination of psychology, interpersonal relationships, design and tech.

What have you gotten out of working on the PM program?

It's been such a cool experience. I learned a lot about building a program and designing curriculums. It's been very rewarding seeing the progression of when I first started training versus how it is now. Also, I've learned a lot about being an effective leader. And I've gotten, over the past couple months, a lot closer with the PMs. Seeing how excited they are made me feel so good. I think it's just been rewarding both in terms of the relationships I've built with the PMs and also in my own development.

Best piece of college dating advice you’ve heard? Or worst?

A good piece of advice that I've heard is that it's easy to love someone else well if you love yourself well, so I think making sure that like going into a relationship that you really feel like you know yourself and what you would need. Also, knowing how to be patient with yourself because there's a lot of learning involved. So I think overall, work on yourself, and that'll make you a better partner in a relationship.

What do you look for in a partner?

I look for somebody who is very grounded, knows themselves, is sure of what they want and knows how to communicate that. Sense of humor is also one of the first things I notice about people. I just love good, witty banter. Then also—somebody who, this is kind of obvious, but somebody who cares a lot about people and shows that. I think sometimes, with guys, there's this sort of weird, masculine tendency to not show that as much. And I look for people who are comfortable showing that.

What’s the most romantic thing someone’s ever done for you / you’ve ever done for someone?

I went on a road trip with my ex—who I'm still like good friends with. We drove from LA up to Stanford along Highway One. It was so pretty, and we stayed in cute little towns along the way. We were both in between work and school. So we were able to just focus on having a good time. We ate good food, listened to music, and talked. It was great.

If you were a Marriage Pact question, what question would you be?

I would go on a spontaneous trip, even if that meant putting off my responsibilities.

What’s your favorite Marriage Pact question?

Do you believe in soulmates? Which I don't, at all.

Ok, let’s answer that one!

I'd probably say maybe two or three. Because I think that there are certain people who feel like soulmates and you can create a soulmate-like relationship with people, but I don't think there's any sort of automatic, “this person is my soulmate and once they're in my life, it's easy.” I think in every relationship there are big issues, but also that doesn't mean that the connection isn't special.